Reasons to stop SI

tips on how to cope: dealing with your feelings, dealing with the consequences of self-harm in your life. share your ideas and maybe pick up some new skills, too. you don't have to want to stop to learn something new here.

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Reasons to stop SI

Post by Addygrl » Tue Oct 04, 2005 12:38 pm

After telling a good friend about SI and having an amazingly wonderful reaction (he told me "I just want to tell you ____(my full name)____ that I love you as a friend and I will always care about you no matter what", and is driving over (he lives a few cities away) to take me out on a date on friday), but it made me seriously consider stopping. Ive sort of got into a bad routine of doing SI fairly regularly, but maybe its time, with everything thats been piling up, to focus on why I should find better ways to deal with my problems. I made a list of reasons to stop, that I'm going to post in my room, but I thought I'd post it here too, and maybe other people that are still SIing, but considering stopping could post lists for themselves also. I'm not sure if there's already a topic for this, but I couldn't find one, so I thought that I'd just make one of my own. Thanks for letting me share :D.

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Post by Addygrl » Tue Oct 04, 2005 12:40 pm

Reasons not to SI

Because I have many friends that care about me

Because my family loves me

Because I need to remember the amount that I hurt when my friends are in pain, and realize that I give that pain to my friends when I SI

Because I don’t like to be a burden on anyone else

Because I want to date without having to explain my marks

Because I want to allow myself to be happy without always being reminded of pain

Because the body is a beautiful thing, and I should allow it to look beautiful

Because I want to be healthy and treat my body correctly

Because my family has faith in me to get better

Because my friends have faith in me to get better

Because I don’t like to hurt

Because artwork and journaling look prettier than cutting

Because I don’t want my children to think that SI is acceptable

Because I want to be a good parent when I grow up

Because I want to be a good role model for my sisters

Because I don’t want to feel like a stranger in my own body

Because I don’t like to fail

Because I can be determined when I set my mind to it

Because I need to learn to love myself, and hating myself doesn’t seem to get me anywhere

Because it’s my body and I’m in control of my body
"Befriending a depressed person is a bit like hugging a porcupine. It might be painful, but that doesn't mean that the porcupine needs the hug any less"



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Post by plantt » Tue Oct 04, 2005 3:06 pm

sound like good reasons to me :)
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Post by disastercake » Wed Oct 05, 2005 12:10 pm

That is really awesome that you made that list. And congrats on it being so long!! Hopefully you'll keep adding to it, and pull it out each time you get an urge. I think I'm going to make one :blush:
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Post by balletomane » Wed Oct 05, 2005 4:31 pm

:star:

that's a beautiful list.
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